The loss of a family member or friend is often the most difficult challenge many of us experience in our lifetimes. While grieving, you’re making many complicated and painful decisions on how to best memorialize them, completing service arrangements, and even tending to your beloved’s assets. The process can feel overwhelming, to say the least. That’s why Carter DeYoung has put together these resources to guide you through this difficult process.
In the not-so-distant past, the family notified others of someone’s passing with a phone call or in person. However, in today’s technology-driven world, social media is the preferred way to communicate with friends and distant relatives quickly and efficiently. The following is a step-by-step guide to creating a social media memorial that honors your loved one and celebrates their life.
When should a post be made?
It’s best to wait at least 24 hours before announcing or posting about your loss on social media. After that, the family has adequate time to make phone calls or visits to tell those closest to the departed in person. Immediate family members and friends shouldn’t read about the passing of their loved one on social media.
Who Should Make the Post?
Generally, the person closest to the deceased should make the post. A spouse of a loved one would post before a cousin, for example. Of course, there are exceptions, such as when the closest relative requests that someone else handle the announcement.
What Should the Post Say?
The content of the post should focus on honoring the memory of the loved one. When you post, don’t share details of the death or any personal information. If specific details about funeral services are provided, be sure to check that the date, time, and location are correct.
Many funeral homes post obituaries on their website. The obituary link posted on Facebook or Twitter is a good way to provide accurate information. When friends or family access the site, they can share memories and personal messages and confirm the date and time of the service. Some sites link to floral arrangement ordering and even offer the option to purchase a memorial tree.
If it’s difficult to find the right words, consider sharing meaningful pictures or photo collages of your loved one with a short caption. Try to provide a few details about each photo or a memorial quote.
The Loved One’s Social Media Account
If the deceased has a social media account, the family can provide documentation of their passing. A “Remembering” banner is then placed on the page. Depending on the privacy settings, friends can post memories, photos, and condolences to a memorialized timeline.
Beyond the Announcement and Service
Taking care of your loved one’s estate can be particularly strenuous — especially when selling the family home. After passing, the estate goes into probate. During this time, your loved one’s will is reviewed and determined to be valid, and the court records or appoints an executor. While in probate, selling the home is best handled by a real estate agent who knows the probate process well. Potential buyers need an agent’s expertise during the purchase process.
If you’re the spouse of a lost loved one, work through the grieving process by spending extra time with family and friends and seeking the support of a mental health professional or grief counselor if necessary. If family and friends live a long distance away, it can be helpful to reconnect with old friends and acquaintances.
Remembering Your Loved One
In the days immediately after your loved one passes, it’s easy to be overwhelmed with finalizing arrangements. Utilize these tips and use social media to notify friends and distant family quickly with posts that honor the memory of your beloved.
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